Our Story
By Annie
Our story begins in 2006. Back then I lived in Quebec, Canada and Adam was in Las Vegas, Nevada. Even though we were both very skeptical about online dating we both had our profiles set up on ldssingles.com. One day I was just looking up some search results when I saw "THE" guy. The first thing that came to my mind -in french of course- was "Well this one is WAY out of my league. But what can I loose really?" so I wrote THE guy a message. Adam was a non-paying member of the website at the time which meant that he could look and be looked at, but not come in contact with anyone. After I sent him that first message he subscribed right away and answered me! I was ecstatic to say the least! So on September 21th 2006 we were chatting for the first time. I had the worse internet connection possible so we lost each other a lot. After one too many times we decided that maybe phone calls were a better option for us and started actually talking. To this day i still have no idea how we communicated so well with each other. My accent was extremely strong and Adam didn't speak any french but we still didn't miss one word of what the other was saying. We talked every single day for 2 or 3 hours at the time and realized very quickly that we wanted to meet. My work schedule was a lot more flexible than Adam's and so I decided that I would be the one making the first trip. Most of my friends thought I was completely insane but those that really knew me knew that there was no stopping me. The thing that most didn't know was that I had prayed a lot to be guided and to know if I was doing the right thing. Before we ever met in person, I KNEW that Adam would always be THE guy for me. God had comforted my heart and I was ready for the flight. Obviously, I kept that to myself until much later on. This girl knew better than scaring THE guy away! :)
So on November 17th 2006 -right on time to meet the whole Fox family for Thanksgiving- we were spending our first 2 weeks together. At this point we both knew that there would be no 2000 miles in this world to keep us apart. As soon as i went back to Quebec all our efforts were put together to bring me back to the US and in March 2007 I was home for good. We started making decisions for our wedding and, unlike most couples, we also had to deal with immigration matters. We were giving advice to get married as soon as we could so we could get my immigration papers started. But that would involve a wedding outside of the Temple. We decided to go against the advice and get married for all eternity. Even if that meant that the paperwork would take a little longer. That decision blessed us beyond words as not only on May 12th 2007, we could get married to each other for all time and eternity, but we also were able to get my immigration papers done a lot faster than we expected. After we got married we decided to move to Utah and found a little house to rent in Farmington. We loved it there but were soon on the market to buy our first place. We found a cute townhouse in Ogden that we bought and made our own. We welcomed our son Josan there and have a lot of amazing memories that happened there as well. But after living there for 2 years, we outgrew it and bought a house in Clinton. We remodeled that one from top to bottom and absolutely loved it there. After 2 years once again, we had to move. This time it was because Adam's job was moving us to Colorado Springs. After praying and weighting the pros and cons, we made the move and now have been the happy owners of the perfect house for our family. We remodeled this place entirely as well. We just love to make our places our own and keep ourselves busy too. So that's our story up to this point of our lives.
Why we are looking to adopt our second child?
Well Josan had always been a very mellow, calm and overall easy baby. So in May 2009, when Josan was about 6 months old, we decided that maybe we should grow our family and the love that we had even more. At that time we thought it would be as soon and easy as we wanted it to be. We thought it was a matter of a couple of months before we would be pregnant again. The months passed and even the years. After about 2 years of trying and being disappointed month after month we gave Artificial Insemination a try (or 4 or 5). It didn't work any more than on our own. So we just kept trying by ourselves and we got pregnant! Very early (6 weeks) I lost the baby. We were devastated. But we had hope that we could be pregnant again and that felt great. But another 2 years had passed and I started trying different fertility medications. At one point it worked! It was the best feeling in the world. I was about 6 weeks along and we were on a cruise with Adam's side of the family. We felt so blessed. The rocking of the ship was giving me motion sicknesses and I was actually loving every second of it. I was embracing EVERY aspect of having a baby growing in my belly. But the morning after announcing everyone the great news, I lost the baby. Again. A miscarriage is very painful. Like a monthly period...times 20. But the physical pain couldn't measure with the emotional sorrow that Adam and I were feeling. It was so hard. So hard to want something so badly for what was now 4 years and being so close...and still failing. I started thinking that maybe this was not meant to be. Maybe that was not God's plan for us. But then what was?
A while after I started thinking that way, I was holding one of my friend's little 10 months old boy. The baby was throwing me one good tantrum. He was not happy. But while I was holding him as he was crying I realized how much I loved this boy. He was not happy. He was not even mine. Yet I loved him. That's when I realized it. I realized that, no matter HOW I'd have another child, he or she would be loved just as much as our first one without a doubt. From the beginning and forever.
I let Adam know how I was feeling about it all. After a couple of weeks of thinking and praying, he had agreed with me; we were going to try to adopt!!!
We are so excited...and a little nervous let's be honest. But there is nothing we want more right now. There is nothing we have wanted more for the past 5 years. We have so much love to give. And whether this child is biological or adopted, he or she will be more loved and desired than words could ever express.
About Adam
By Annie
This is going to sound cheesy. And sugar coated. I tried my best not to get there but it's just the way things are.
Adam is, by a long shot, the best man I have ever met. To this day I sometimes still cannot believe that I got blessed enough to call him my husband. He is very family centered. All he does and ever look forward to has to do with us and/or his parents and brothers and sisters. Having 2 older sisters and 3 older brothers gave him that laid back, funny personality. We can't spend one day without laughing together. But he also knows that he has responsibilities inside and outside of our home and he has never failed at any one of them. He has always provided for our family and he is always trying his best to be my team mate at home as opposed to let me do all that has to do with inside the house. He is the most loving and soft hearted man I know. Josan and I truly are so blessed because of him. He is my love and my best friend. He is Josan's idol and hero.
About Annie
By Adam
I hope you are ready for more cheese! Annie is by far the most amazing person I know. From the second I met her she has blessed my life and the life of anyone she comes in contact with. She is a beautiful, energetic, loving, thoughtful, patient, French Canadian hot mama! Not to mention she has an extremely cute accent that you can't help but love. She loves to serve and help others, especially if it involves little babies. She never does anything halfway, if she sets her mind to something she sees that it is completed and made perfect. Did I mention she is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen?
It's obvious to everyone who knows her that she is such a loving mother. She adores our son, Josan and would do anything to ensure that he is well taken care of and happy. From the second he was born she has almost spent every second of every day with him and she wouldn't have it any other way. You can see that love reciprocated in the way Josan is with her and how he can't get enough of his mom. A child could not have a better mother.
About Josan
By Adam and Annie
As Annie said earlier, Josan has always been a very mellow and easy child. He is such a mature, sensitive little boy. He always has other people's feelings in mind and would never purposely hurt anyone. Even if he is only 5 years old, he has been aware of smaller kids than himself for such a long time already. He likes to be our little assistant whenever a baby or little kid comes over and likes to make sure that they do not get into what is not "safe" for them and secretly loves to kiss babies (when no public eye is around). He is so smart and learns everything so easily. He is a very social boy and makes friends instantly wherever he goes. He has been asking if we would have a baby in Mommy's belly for a long time now and seemed surprisingly unphased by the fact that we might need help "from another mommy" to get a brother or a sister for him. He would make such a wonderful big brother!
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Absolutely PERFECT you guys! I love it....adoption is the best. Lots of prayers your way. Anything i can do...I'd love to help. <3 Tiffany
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